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Relationships

Relationships are a collage of compromises, commitment, adjustments, trust, care, sacrifices, maturity, understandings, patience, tolerance and unconditional love. It’s smeared with tears, laughter, smiles and sprinkled with beautiful moments spent together. It’s not all about happiness but also being there for each other when sadness creeps in. It’s all about two people who are madly in love with each other and have a strong pertinacity to make their bond work by enduring each other’s imperfections, overlooking flaws and cherishing the differences.

Distance isn’t a big factor in relationships, communication is. Relationships require communication. They can’t flourish without proper amount of communication. Even though you’re far, the heart still cares but lack of communication can lead to doubts and misunderstandings. Also while communicating, the substantial problem is that we don’t listen with the intent to understand. We listen to reply. Expressing ourselves effectively and listening properly is indeed very essential.

For the relationship to work, we must remember that it should be continued in the same way when it started. Sometimes people who are not equally spiritual counterparts, make changes in themselves in the hope that making these changes will help to coagulate their relationships. This usually results in a person not being happy in their relationship later on because they realize that they must continue to act as someone they really aren’t, to give their relationship a chance to work. One way to never face this in life is to always be who you are. Show your significant other from the start, the things in life that you really care about. If they really love you, they will take interest and encourage you to be that person instead of someone you aren’t.

Grooming each other is the sign of most strongest relationships. Your partner should see the light inside of you and believe that speck of goodness is worth holding to. If you are with someone with whom you feel a connection, who makes you giggle until you have tears in your eyes, who melts your heart with a simple smile, who works to make you happy, who plans a future with you, understands you and your moods, loves and cares for you truly, helps in your overall growth, then you’re with the right one.

The most troubling consequences of falling in love too fast is losing who you are in the process. Whatever the circumstances, give your best. No one is perfect. Tying to fake up and act a perfecto never helps. Be the real you and cherish the differences you have. Appreciate the efforts they make for you. Treasure the moments. Make them smile. You don’t have to give them flowers or gifts or the entire world to make them happy. Just make them happy by sincerely giving them “you”.

Maintaining a relationship needs a great effort. Leave no stones unturned so that you don’t have to regret for not making good of what was once with you. Forget the world and be with the one whom your heart desires. Life has a really long way to go. So, be with someone who can make you smile. There is no need to rush for anything. If something is meant to be, it will happen. In the right time, with the right person and for the best reason.

केटि फकाउनु पर्दा खेरिको फुर्सद

केटि फकाउनु पर्दा खेरिको फुर्सद,
अनि पछि त्यै केटि फकिएपछि
उसलाई समय दिन नसक्ने त्यो व्यस्तता ।
पहिलो दिनमा जति पछि लागिन्छ,
त्यति नै मिहेनत पछी चाहिँ किन गरिन्न ?
मन नै त हो, त्यही आस गरिरहन्छ,
जुन मिहेनत देखेर मन पराईएको हुन्छ,
बिस्तारै सेलाउदै, हराउदै गएसी के होस् ?
त्यै माथि छोरी मान्छेको मन,
सानो कुरामा चसक्क हुने,
कुन कुरामा कति बेला दुख्छ,
बुझेर पनि बुझी नसक्नुको,
बाहिर राम्रै देखिन्छिन ऊनि,
भित्र के आंधी चलिरको छ थाहा हुन्न,
तर छोरी मान्छेको मन, चाडैं फक्किईने
जति जे भन, कराउ, थर्काउ,
एक चोटी मायालु स्वोरमा बोलेसी पुग्छ,
सारा दुख एक हाँसोमा भुल्ने त्यो मन,
तेस्लाई फकाएर मख्ख पार्न खोज्ने
केटाहरुको त्यो सुरुको प्रयास,
केटि फकाउनु पर्दा खेरिको त्यो फुर्सद
अनि पछि तेइ केटि फकिएपछी
उसलाई समय दिन नसक्ने, त्यो व्यस्तता।

Ah Pity!

The flower doesn’t give happiness,

the thorn has its place in,

happiness alone is not a life,

the sadness mingles in.

 

Our relation is alike –

the two river banks,

with sad hearts and soul,

going towards where the deep calls.

 

The temple of trust – you broke,

only thinking it to be a pile of dust.

The dagger thrust on my broken heart,

to find you kneeling elsewhere.

 

The dawn, noon and dusk,

I yearn to see you.

Changing the words of love,

I feel like talking to you.

 

Then the sickness turns up,

thinking of you.. trying to understand,

I am in a trance,

with your thoughts and plans.

 

Shall I sing secretly in your ear;

my heart’s saddest song?

To rapture your soul eternally,

with the sadness of past.

 

Ah!.such a pity!

to live with your habit,

even wine doesn’t leave me,

only you are my trust.

The unborn girl

Month One… Mommy, I am only 8 inches long, but I have all my organs. I love the sound of your voice. Everytime I hear it, I wave my arms and legs. The sound of your heart beat is my favorite lullaby.

Month Two… Mommy, today I learned how to suck my thumb. If you could see me, you could definitely tell that I am a baby. I’m not big enough to survive outside my home though. It is so nice and warm in here.

Month Three… You know what Mommy, I’m a girl! I hope that makes you happy. I always want you to be happy. I don’t like it when you cry. You sound so sad. It makes me sad too, and I cry with you even though you can’t hear me.

Month Four… Mommy, my hair is starting to grow. It is very short and fine, but I will have a lot of it. I spend a lot of my time exercising. I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes, and stretch my arms and legs. I am becoming quite good at it too.

Month Five… You went to the doctor today. Mommy, he lied to you. He said that I’m not a baby. I am a baby Mommy, your baby. I think and feel. Mommy, what’s abortion?

Month Six… I can hear that doctor again. I don’t like him. He seems cold and heartless. Something is intruding my home. The doctor called it a needle. Mommy what is it? It burns! Please make him stop! I can’t get away from it! Mommy! Help me!

Month Seven… Mommy, I am okay. I am in God’s arms. He is holding me. He told me about abortion. Why didn’t you want me Mommy?

…the unborn girl

 

Every abortion is,
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak…

 

 

 

 

 

(unknown…)

Unconditional Love

I believe there are always some special ones in everyone’s life who just give all they can, to provide fuel for your journey towards your ambitions, happiness, comfort and everything which benefits you without expecting anything in return. Today, I have few words which most of the times are understood, sometimes forgotten, sometimes wished to express but did not get a chance, and sometimes not even said or thought about when it was much needed. Well, I wont delay it any further in expressing these feelings and thoughts I have for those two very special people of my life – My Dad and my Mom.

You’ve been with me through all the crossroads of life whenever I didn’t know the way to walk. I could never even pen down even half of what you have done for me. Putting my happiness over everything, be it my favorite chocolate, my dress, tv show or my studies, you guys never considered it secondary. Be it learning to cook or ride a scooty, you’ve been with me whenever I needed. May be I was rude and complained some times, but I do realize that you have always given me the first priority and invested upon me to the extent you could. You believed in me when the rest of the world saw me with doubt in their eyes. People consider me “good” today – all bcoz of you. Everything I am, is because of you. Parents love is unconditional and you guys make me wonder this beauty of love.

If only I could give you back one fold of what you’ve given me, I’d be glad. I am proud to have parents like you. For all the sacrifices you have made for me, for your efforts, supports, blessings, love and care all these times… Dear Mom and Dad, I LOVE YOU! Thank you so much for everything. Thank you for all the happy memories. Thank you for the unconditional love and care. Thank you for investing so much in raising me and making me this able. Thank you for all the hugs and shoulders you provided whenever I broke down. Thank you for waking up the night I had my exams or I felt sick. Thank you for all those known and unknown sacrifices you have made for me. Thank you so much for your efforts in my upbringing. There are lots I am grateful to you for, I’d fall short of words.

I may not have ever said you this, but seriously you guys have been the greatest support ever. Without you, I’d never have existed(literally yes!) but the way you have been there for me, it makes me grin and feel that I am the luckiest daughter ever, and you guys the best-est parent a child could get. I heartily thank you and hope that someday you too will really be proud to have me as your daughter.

Big beary hugs and sweetest kisses to the two awesome people of my life!

Yours ever loving daughter,

🙂